Domestic abuse

 Hope Solo, 32-year-old pro soccer goalkeeper and two-time Olympic gold medalist, was taken into police custody in the early morning hours of June 21
The celebrity sports star is being held without bail and charged with two counts of investigation of domestic-violence assault
Police arrested Solo at her home last night after she allegedly hit ‘her sister and nephew at her home that she shares with ex-NFL player Jerramy Stevens in Kirkland, Wash
The alleged assaults reportedly followed an argument with her sister and nephew while family members gathered at Solo’s home
Kirkland police were called to Solo’s and Stevens’ home to investigate a noise complaint as well as an assault complaint
Mike Murray of the Kirkland Police Department told reporters today that ‘There was a big party going on at her house
Upon hearing of their goalie’s arrest, The Seattle Reign FC released a statement saying that they were aware of the situation and are ‘currently gathering information
‘ The Seattle Reign refused to comment any further on Solo’s arrest
The Seattle Times shared the information from the Kirkland Police Department’s report on the situation, which stated that the cops were called to a 911 at Solo’s residence just before 1:00 a
A male caller was saying that a woman at the house was ‘hitting people’ and that she wouldn’t leave
Upon arriving at the scene, police said that they could hear sounds of commotion coming from inside the house
Cops say that when they entered the residence, they made contact with several individuals inside including Hope Solo, ‘who appeared intoxicated and upset
‘ Police said they could see visible injuries apparent on Solo’s sister and Solo’s 17-year-old nephew
Solo was arrested, charged with two counts of Domestic Violence Assault 4th Degree, and booked into the south King County detention facility
Solo will appear in Kirkland Municipal Court to face charges on June 23
The last time we heard about Solo being involved in a domestic violence incident, she was on the receiving end of the abuse from now husband Jerramy Stevens
Solo married Stevens a few hours after he was released from custody
For more on that story, see the video accompanying this article
Most trauma begins at home: the vast majority of people (about 80%) responsible for child maltreatment are the children’s own parents
Developmental Trauma Disorder: Towards a rational diagnosis for children with complex trauma histories (Psychiatric Annals, 2005)
Over a year ago a newspaper reporter asked me this very question and I was on the fence
I thought I understood the battered women’s perspective and appreciated the police correction’s side
I truly can see this from both points of view, but today if I had to vote, I’d vote against mandated arrest
Mandated arrest is a law that requires law enforcement to make an arrest when specific conditions exist, which are indicative of the presence of domestic violence
The particulars differ from state to state for the states that have adopted mandated arrest for domestic abuse
Mandated Domestic Violence Arrest and Police Corrections
The fundamental belief is that once domestic abuse leaks out to law enforcement, the victim can be manipulated or coerced into dropping charges
She is likely to be overpowered by the abuser to yield to his wishes
In my particular case, mandated arrest could have helped my children and me
However, this is not always the case for domestic violence families
Individuals in the domestic abuse shelter communities are strongly opposed to mandated arrest because it takes the ultimate decision of proceeding with charges out of the victim’s hands
Essentially this gives her no say at a time when her vision embraces more of the whole family circumstance than that of anyone else
In many respects it robs her of her basic human rights to make her own decisions regarding her welfare
It declares her momentarily incompetent to make this family abuse milestone decision
The reason I was on the fence over this debate is because I knew this “state of incompetence
” It is very real in cases of true unidirectional intimate partner violence
However, most cases of domestic abuse are not so clear-cut
And when that is the situation, basic rights are infringed upon
Many people liken it to laws prohibiting abortion in that the woman is denied “her choice,” in a situation regarding her body
Mandated arrest for domestic abuse is seen as further victimizing the survivor
I have seen far too many cases when mandated arrest brought irreparable destruction to families that needed psychological care over corrections
One such case resulted in the perpetrator’s suicide and another in exacerbated psychopathology with severe implications for innocent minor children
If you are “considering” going to the police, it will be in your interest to understand the specific implications of doing so
Know the laws in your state and the consequences of these statutes
” This word must be distinguished from a reflex urgent 911 call
You will want to call for immediate police help if you are in imminent danger
On the other hand, if you are reflecting on a domestic abuse altercation weeks on end after the fact, consider with full consideration, competency and care
At trial, I relied heavily on the deposition transcript while cross examining the ex-husband and he eventually became unglued
The man’s insanity and hostility surfaced once again
By the end of the hearing, the Judge was able to see the real nature of the ex-husband and ordered limited visitation
The Judge also ordered that the ex-husband attend serious counseling before his visitation could ever be expanded
In view of the subsequent brutal beating the ex-husband committed upon my client, I now know that my intuition was correct
During the beating the ex-husband repeatedly pounded my client’s head against a planter, as their two children watched while sitting in their car a few feet away
The ex-husband was eventually stopped by a bystander and he was arrested and charged with attempted murder
The children are in the care of my client’s parents
Could this brutal second attack have been prevented
However, I have a few suggestions for those who have been the victims of domestic violence and who still maintain contact with the perpetrator because of child custody issues
1) Trust your instincts and don’t let your guard down
If you fear that you may be the victim of domestic violence, don’t be shy in seeking all the available remedies with the court
2) Consider asking the court to order monitored visitation and that somebody else stand in for you to make the exchanges
3) If possible, bring someone capable of defending you to the exchanges
4) Ask the court for permission to video record the transfers so that you can report back to the court when the perpetrator crosses the line
5) Consider bringing pepper spray, a taser gun, or any other weapon that you can lawfully carry to the exchanges
6) Finally, consider investing in a security system for your house, including surveillance cameras
As the above case demonstrates, the legal system does not have all the answers and cannot protect victims of domestic violence, in all cases
In light of this reality, you must take whatever steps you can within the law to protect yourself
In this case, it pays to carry out a background check
In fact, one can use it to check on the history of a possible employee or to check if the arrest made during one
Doing a background check on a possible nanny can ensure that one will not be hiring a registered sex offender
s record; however, the State of California Arrest records are restricted and one can only get one
With that said, one can get criminal records that have already received convictions from the court or those that have been made public records
For those interested to see their own records, residents can request a background check to be made for them by the Department of Justice
The person requesting the report should download a form made available by the Office in its website, go to a Live Scan center to have their fingerprints taken and submit these to the DOJ
s office or one of the designated fingerprint agencies
The Office only accepts checks and money orders drawn from a US bank
Other payment types are not accepted and will cause the request to be returned
The State restricts government agencies from charging the person requesting the records more than the amount specified by the law
However, fingerprint agencies can charge the person for rolling out fees
To search for public criminal records, one should include the case number and other details in their request
They can visit the DOJ, Superior Court or the Clerk of the County where the case was filed
In the event that the case number is unknown, they can look for the records at the Superior Court
They also have the option to visit or mail the Clerk of the County for their request copies
The Office does charge for record searches that would last for more than 10 minutes
One other way that makes the criminal records search easy is to avail of the services of commercial public search sites or third party sites that offer searches free or for a nominal fee
One can make arrests search, registered sex offenders search and background checks in the convenience of their own offices or homes
This is the best way to utilize the power of the internet while saving one
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Three of my closest and dearest friends never knew the hell I lived through during my battlefield
Victims are the best at hiding our secrets from the world
Our shame and blame defines us, strips our souls, and masks our identities
One dear friend in Kansas City who has been with me for over 20 years, had an inkling that something was wrong; however, I was forced to move 13 hours away
I made two new friends in the small town I moved to and saw each of them during separate venues
They never suspected one thing was wrong with me, although one of my girlfriends asked me once why I was always leaving class so quickly and could not go for coffee or talk afterwards
My excuse was that I had to pick up my little boy from his preschool
I often wondered what might have happened if either of those two friends had known about the domestic violence before I had him arrested the night he tried to kill me
A battered woman is hesitant to tell anyone about domestic violence because she is ashamed
The motives behind “not telling the big secret” are numerous and may vary
One common downfall is the issue of trust and being able to find a therapist, life coach, or counselor who the victim feels she is safe with
After all, the victim’s partner was supposed to be the one person in the world she could turn to for providing safety, yet he betrayed her
Trusting anyone, after being a victim of domestic violence, takes a very long time
The victim will become withdrawn from friends or family, or both, and as a result of this isolation, the abuse becomes more rampant
The victim will learn to live without the ability to trust anyone
Another downfall is that women in chronic abusive relationships blame themselves for the violence
They feel they deserve the blame because if they were better wives or lovers, their partners or husbands would love them more and attack them less
When the victim does finally seek help, quite often she will mask the real reason for the visit, due to blaming of self and others
Chronic illnesses may also be a result and downfall of being a battered woman
Labels hurt people and they certainly harm a woman who has survived and conquered domestic violence
Downfalls from domestic violence can be changed from living with disgrace to “living with grace and dignity
Nevertheless, I am not living in shame, nor am I in hiding
I paid my price dearly during my years of abuse and now it is my calling to give back to others
I still cannot put anything over my face or nose, for fear of not being able to breathe
I still do not like dark rooms, except for when I am sleeping
I am afraid of empty stairwells when I am the only person walking in them
I will remember details of your face upon meeting you and be able to tell you what you were wearing
You see, once a person is ever attacked, has become a victim of a violent crime, or suffered at the hands of an abuser, any abuser, they learn survival tactics and skills
I also took many types of extracurricular classes during my training to help other battered women when I knew this was my calling
I have many quirks, but I am strong, I am a woman, and I am a survivor of domestic violence
Watch me now, as I help you become resilient and restore your grace and dignity, also
Hopefully you read the fourth article titled; “A Few Signs of Domestic Violence You Cannot Ignore—Part Four, in a Series of Six
Please read the final article in this series of six on domestic violence titled, “Domestic Violence Prevention
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domestic violence in California is actually on the rise
It is a cause of concern for any peace loving and law abiding citizen
Posters, media coverage, fact sheets, brochures for victims, sample resolutions and other resources available should be used to call attention to this mind destroying and heart wrecking crime
Stalking is just one way of abuse under the umbrella of domestic violence in California
The California Penal Code defines abuse as intentional,reckless cause or attempt to cause bodily harm to oneself,or another
Having understood what abuse is we can easily clarify domestic violence in California
Domestic violence in California is a case of abuse where intimate partners violate the right of their spouses, through physical assault,rape and stalking
Domestic violence often involves a pattern of coercive behavior that includes physical, sexual, verbal, emotional and psychological abuse and usually occurs inside and outside homes
Domestic violence in California registered several calls for assistance in the last ten years
California law enforcement agencies received close to two hundred thousands domestic violence calls
Which features intimate partner homicide rates by gender, race and ethnicity
Gender on itself is a main issue since Survey indicates that women are six times more vulnerable to domestic violence than men
Domestic violence in California is reducing judged by the number of arrests recorded by California Department of Justice, Criminal Justice Statistics Center
Comparing domestic violence in California in 2006 and 2005 its shows the figures are actually not improving but worsening
From the studies it is clear and evident that four times the number of women are buttered compared to men
The aggrieved partner is driven by frustration and anger to cause bodily harm to himself or the partner by use of weapons, which include firearms, knives and or guns
The rise in domestic violence in California is overstretching the state’s health resources and facilities
Domestic violence in California is a food for thought and intensive campaign is essential to control it
Unfortunately its targeted towards women who form the basis of a family hence they form the cornerstone of the state’s stability in terms of social, political, and economic development
Wouldn’t it be nice if there were some extra help getting on your feet after breaking free from domestic violence
Luckily, many organizations have agreed with that sentiment, and have since created grants and scholarships specifically for those who have survived, and escaped, domestic violence
One of the reasons individuals stay with their abusers involves a fear of financial instability
How will the newly free survivor pay for rent, food, electricity, and other living expenses
When children are involved, leaving becomes even more stressful
Once the victim is out and rebuilding her life, suddenly a new world is opened to her that seemed unavailable previously
She may wish to pursue higher education, but may not know how to fund that education
It has been shown that individuals with an associate or bachelor’s degree have greater earning power than those who do not
What are these organizations and how does one apply for such aid
The award is prioritized by type of higher learning opportunity – and students wishing to attend state sponsored community colleges receive first priority
Next, students who are attending public four-year colleges receive priority
These scholarships are only available to women who have financial need and have received services from a nonprofit domestic violence agency for at least six months
The average award for this scholarship is $2000 per school term
This scholarship was established by Arizona State University donor Arnold Arellano
The scholarship’s purpose is to provide funding to survivors of domestic violence
The scholarship is meant for any undergraduate domestic violence survivor who needs assistance with tuition
The criteria for this award involves writing an essay, a letter of referral from either a counselor or clergy member, demonstrating financial need, and maintaining good standing with the university
The amount of the award is commensurate with the student’s need
Fund has helped many women who were victims of domestic violence with reconstructive surgery
However, this foundation also awards money to those who have overcome violence and to those who are helping others to overcome violence
Fund Award is given to women who have broken the violence cycle and who now have an inspirational story to share with the world
In order to receive this award, the individual must be nominated by another
The nominating party will then answer a series of questions – including whether the individual has been out of the violent relationship for at least one year, is living in a safe place, is a U
citizen or legal resident, and has an arrest record
Individuals selected to win this award receive $10,000
The Jeannette Rankin Fund is geared toward women ages thirty-five and older who come from a disadvantaged background
While it is not limited to survivors of domestic violence, this scholarship can certainly benefit women who are starting life over due to the impact breaking free from the violent partner has had
The General Federation of Women’s Clubs has created a domestic violence awareness and prevention fund
Part of this fund includes a commitment to providing $1000 scholarships to women escaping violence
The fund is supported through donations that come from community members, foundation members, and those supporting domestic violence awareness programs
The deadline for the scholarship is March 30 for the following school year
Arellano Scholarship for Survivor of Domestic Violence
Over the last few years many studies have been done concerning various forms of child and youth victimization
These studies have included; physical and sexual abuse, bullying, sexual harassment, exposure to community violence and the witnessing of domestic violence
What’s scary about all these studies is the end result
Rather than discussing all the statistics, which would only confuse you as they did me, consider this; only 29% of children had NOT been victimized either directly or indirectly
Only 29% of children had NOT been victimized either directly or indirectly
That is an amazing statistic in itself and based on that there is no need to discuss the other numbers
However, the problems may be a lot worse than the published reports indicate
The guidelines set for the purposes of these studies tend to overlook certain activities and therefore do not present a clear picture
For instance; studies on community violence will report on the overall picture but fail to report individual cases of child neglect and emotional abuse
Assaults by brothers and sisters, non-sexual assaults of the genitals (touching), violence on dates and hate crimes are often not included in reports because the right questions are not being asked
Interviewers tend to focus on “conventional crime experiences” and therefore fail to properly interview victims and their families
Another problem with the approach used to gather information for these reports is that they fail to identify multiple infractions within the same offense
For example, when a child is “Bullied”, physical abuse and sexual harassment often occur at the same time but only “bullying” is reported
Frequently, violent parents attack multiple family members
When law enforcement is called out on a domestic violence disturbance and arrests the ‘parent”, child abuse is often
Fragmentation in these studies is made worse when interviewers focus on age groups such as teenagers or, more often, elementary school children
Focusing on a particular age group can result in a mis-perception that crime occurs primarily to that group
It is our responsibility as adults to ensure that our children are properly cared for
If you know or suspect that a child is not being properly treated you should report it
If you have children and depend on babysitters, nannies or even siblings to care for them, get a hidden camera or recorder NOW
They are easy to setup and use and may save you both emotional and physical discomfort
domestic violence in California is actually on the rise
It is a cause of concern for any peace loving and law abiding citizen
Posters, media coverage, fact sheets, brochures for victims, sample resolutions and other resources available should be used to call attention to this mind destroying and heart wrecking crime
Stalking is just one way of abuse under the umbrella of domestic violence in California
The California Penal Code defines abuse as intentional,reckless cause or attempt to cause bodily harm to oneself,or another
Having understood what abuse is we can easily clarify domestic violence in California
Domestic violence in California is a case of abuse where intimate partners violate the right of their spouses, through physical assault,rape and stalking
Domestic violence often involves a pattern of coercive behavior that includes physical, sexual, verbal, emotional and psychological abuse and usually occurs inside and outside homes
Domestic violence in California registered several calls for assistance in the last ten years
California law enforcement agencies received close to two hundred thousands domestic violence calls
Which features intimate partner homicide rates by gender, race and ethnicity
Gender on itself is a main issue since Survey indicates that women are six times more vulnerable to domestic violence than men
Domestic violence in California is reducing judged by the number of arrests recorded by California Department of Justice, Criminal Justice Statistics Center
Comparing domestic violence in California in 2006 and 2005 its shows the figures are actually not improving but worsening
From the studies it is clear and evident that four times the number of women are buttered compared to men
The aggrieved partner is driven by frustration and anger to cause bodily harm to himself or the partner by use of weapons, which include firearms, knives and or guns
The rise in domestic violence in California is overstretching the state’s health resources and facilities
Domestic violence in California is a food for thought and intensive campaign is essential to control it
Unfortunately its targeted towards women who form the basis of a family hence they form the cornerstone of the state’s stability in terms of social, political, and economic development

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